About Me

About Me

Hi My name is Philissa. 

I am a mother of 5, 3 adult daughters and 2 elementary school age sons. I have gone through many adversities in my life but like Maya Angelou stated, “Still I Rise.” In my life I went down a winding tunnel of despair. When I came out on the other side; I hated myself completely. At first, I blamed the world for the hurt I went through. Then I blamed myself. I have always been a reader and have read many self-help books by gurus like Tony Robbins, Napoleon Hill, and John Maxwell to give a few examples. I did not heed the words I read and lived my life trying to please others.

 I realized after a failed relationship, with a person whom I thought of as a best friend, of almost 20 years, that I should have been working on my self love. I should have been doing everything I could to please myself. I realized that I did not love myself and that is the main reason I went through many self-degrading acts and I let people hurt me. 

I tried counseling but it did not work because I already knew what they were going to say and what they were going to have me do. All the books I have read gave me the knowledge I needed. I know that life is based on choices. So, I made the choice to do whatever it takes to forgive and love me.

Once I realized that everything that I need is already within me. I was easily able to forgive myself. When I did so I became stronger. I was able to stand for myself and let go of others that did not align with my self-progression. I was able to become the happy person I always dreamed of becoming.

I chose to put me first. In doing this I was able to love myself completely, which in return helped me to be better for the deserving people in my life.

I am writing this blog to help you find the love that you deserve. To show you the steps that strengthen the love in me.

 “The greatest person to love you completely is yourself.”