The 5 Elements that Control our Success or Failure
Self- Management Structure:
The 5 Elements that Control our Success or Failure
Forgive yourself for what you didn’t know. African Proverb
When we go about your daily lives there is a sequence that happens
that ends our day with successful fulfillment or regrets. If we are aware of this
sequence it will ensure more control over our lives. This control will lessen
failures in life’s journeys and give us the ability to live a more successful
life.
Self-management is not up to chance or accident. It is influenced by what
precedes our success or failures. Everything for the most part, happens because
we mentally created it to happen, good or bad. “Most of what seems to happen to
us, happens because of you-something YOU created, directed, influenced, or
allowed to happen.” - DR. Shad Helmstetter
Here are 5 steps that influences our self-management decisions:
1.
Behavior
Behavior is our action. It is our movements that
controls how we act out our days, weeks, months, and years, if it will end in
success or failure. How we behave regarding our health, job, education, relationships,
etc, shows how much we like or dislike those experiences. If we do not put much
effort into making the best out of those situations, even when we want to and
know how to, or we work our hardest for the best results, will determine how everything
will work out. Why is it we do not do what we are supposed to, to better our
life, even when we know how to? Why is it that we decide behaviors that is the
least resistance even though we know that it is self-suppressing? The reason we
do things that do not benefit us is because of our:
2. Feelings
How we feel about something will always influence
what we do and how well we do it. Every action we take is based on our emotions.
But what causes us to have the feelings
which are so much a part of us? Did we get them by accident? What produces the
way we feel about anything? Possibility? Nope. Our feelings are created, regulated,
defined, or inspired by our:
3. Attitudes
4. Beliefs
Our beliefs define our attitude, our feelings, and
our actions which establishes our success and failures. Our beliefs are so
powerful that it does not matter if it is true or false. It just matters that
we believe. Our negative beliefs about ourselves are just as powerful as our
positive beliefs. Whatever we believe about ourselves will affect our lives,
even if it is false. We have multiple ideas about who we are. Our mind will act
as if all our beliefs regarding ourselves are true. Where do we get theses
thoughts and beliefs about ourselves? Do we come up with the beliefs on our own?
Unfortunately, we receive these beliefs from our:
5. Programming
We are programmed to believe and think in certain
ways. It begins the day we are born. We
are conditioned by the people around us. We are also influenced by the outside
world. These influences have created, welded, and reinforced what we believe
about ourselves. What we have accepted from the influences has programmed a
deep sequence of events that has led us to a successful or unsuccessful management
of life. It is our programming that establishes
our beliefs, and the domino effect begins. In obvious development, what we
believe determines our attitudes, our feelings, directs our behavior, and
determines our success or failure in managing ourselves, our resources, and our
futures.
1. Programming creates beliefs.
2. Beliefs create attitudes.
3. Attitudes create feelings.
4. Feelings
determine actions.
5. Actions create results.
To start making the adjustments in your life for the
better, change your programming.
Self-Talk is an easy and inspirational way to begin. Here are great books to read to help you on your journey.
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